im 15 and 111lbs ..im short 5'0, so 111lbs is a lot for me %26 its all in my thighs.. i hate how i make myself out to be this insecure teenager whos unhappy with her image but i cant help it =/ all my life ive been told i was pretty %26 ive took it %26 shined with it.. now if you tell me im pretty i smile %26 just think you're saying it to make me feel better because i do the same thing to people %26 lie -
ex: one of my friends is heavy %26 shes always like "omg im so fat!", "do i look fat today?" etc.. %26 EVERYONE tells her "shutup your so skinny" or "your retarted your not fat!" .. then behind her back everyones like "nooffence but _____ needs to loose weight %26 go on a diet"
its like i watch everyone -including myself- tell her shes not fat when she really is.. and think of it the same way towards myself. when people tell me im pretty/not fat i assume their lying to me because i see it being done
i know that no guy likes an insecure girl what can i do?
Answer:
Most people your age are insecure about themselves, from the not so good looking to the gorgeous. The criticisms and critiquing that occur in high school are hard to get through. I"m 23 and still feel "not so attractive". But I have to remind myself that I am, and that I have so much to offer. Look in the mirror and tell yourself all the wonderful things about you. (Ok, so it might sound a little corny, but seriously, try it!) Then remind yourself of all the wonderful people you have around you, and what you mean to them, and they to you. Don't let your peers rule your emotions. In three years you'll all move on and you'll forget all about the people you're surrounded by now. Live your life for you and love yourself for who you are and not who others say you are!!
I'm 70 pounds
The media makes you feel that way. Stop reading magazines for women, those are MADE to make you feel worse about yourself so they can sell you stuff.
everyones beautifull in there own way! remember that
geez you are so messed up!
YOU ARE NOT GLAMEROUS NICE TRY 10 YEAR OLD BABY!
no wonder the girl got mad at you!!
go play with your dolls! your not mature enough !
your a f u c k e d up anorexic! your anorexic if you think your fat!
have fun barfing dinner !
what a 10 year oldBABY YOU ARE!
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excercise, eat healthy, and you can get your weight/appearence to where you feel comfortable. Don't listen to other people, it's up to you how you want to look/feel. If you want to lose/gain weight, go for it.
To be honest with you, since I can't see you, I don't know if you really are or not. I suggest using hypnotherapy to help. It can help change the way you think about yourself.
Look for a good hypnotherapist. You might also try buying a recording from http://www.stevegjones.com
Look for recordings that deal with self image or the like.
Hope this helps.
Why do i feel ugly and fat? peer pressure -- media pressure -- all kinds of pressure to conform and fell like you're accepted -- not sure what you can do -- everybody will say be yourself -- but how? wouldn't be great if you could be happy with who you are ? like I said I don't know the answer ..Sorry -- maybe I can Google something on Body Image and Self Esteem -- brb --
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind... -- guess what just started playing on my radio -- Glamorous -- weird Huh?
First off, you shouldn't want to make self improvements so a guy will like you, you should do it for the simple fact of feeling better about yourself. Second of all, it's a sad part of life that teenage girls are vicious! Being 5 or 10 pounds over weight does not necessarily mean anyone needs to go on a diet. At that age your body is going through so many changes, that gaining a few extra pounds could just be preparation for something else. If you're really worried about it, just cut out your sodas, drink plenty of water, and maybe take up jogging or something that will not only help you shave off a few pounds, but feel healthier in general. And just remember next time you talk about one of your friends behind their backs, how it feels, and if you suspect they could be lying, the friend you lie to probably knows as well.
1) Don't be insecure because of weight issues!
2) Stress will only sabotage any effort to lose weight.
3) Don't worry so much about whatever other people think (I know that's near impossible at your age), as much as how you feel.
4) If you really believe that you have fat thighs...work them out.
5) Except yourself for the way you are always! That doesn't mean that you can't stand improvement, just that you understand that you are a work in progress :)
If you feel crappy about your weight (which you do not need to at all b cauz u are just fine) go for a 30 min walk every day u can and do not eat tons and tons of junk foods. That's all u need to do. This will make you healthy and keep it in your mind that you are healthy so you can stop feeling bad. Then get out there and do charity stuff (food shelter, nursing home, free babysitting, work for big brother big sisters). If you focus on helping others you will realize that as long as you are healthy what you weigh means nothing. If you are a good person you are beautiful, looks is not everything. Once you are in college you will see that :) Teen years are tough, but stay true to you and be a good person, you need to learn to love you for who you are- it will take years but focus on what people see is truely beautiful- the person inside. Your friends may tell white lies to your friend because they know that she is a beautiful person inside and they do not want to ever hurt her feelings. I am just over 5 feet and I am 110. I am pretty similar to you. I feel fat all the time, but it is just because of the media telling us gals to be skinny skinny (stupid) but I value who I am inside and remember that who I am is not just the little hottie in the mirror but what I do to help others and the world. That is where I get confidance from. And that's what guys see and find hot.
You are not even remotely fat. Not even close.
You are buying into the media's nonsense about weight. You are being constantly bombarded with images of grotesquely underweight waifs and being told they are attractive and normal. Nonsense.
Boys (and men) are not attracted to the ultra-skinny "I just vomited my breakfast because I want to lose two more pounds" anorexics. We (and there is science to back this up) are attracted to one thing in women above all else: curves.
Please, for pete's sake, stop worrying about your weight. You're fine. And understand that the anxiety you feel is common to ALL teenage girls. Even the knock outs who stop traffic just by walking down the street look at themsleves in the mirror and say "Oh, I'm so fat and ugly."
You are not fat OR ugly. You're fine. Just accept that. Be yourself. Give that some practice and your insecurity will melt away.
BTW, guys don't care if a girl is "insecure" as long as she is friendly and fun to be with.
I strongly recommend focusing on your good points. Everyone has both strengths and weaknesses and if you have a more rounded mental picture of yourself, this one aspect (weight) might worry you less. Include all your strengths, not just looks. Are you honest? Kind? Strong-minded? A hard worker? Good at music, kind to animals, a helper at home? Do you have pretty hair, an attractive speaking voice, are you good at a sport, or art? There is a lot more to a person than weight. I bet you don't choose people for friends based on their looks. Your friends don't choose you for that reason either. They like lots of things about you, and they don't expect you to be perfect, any more than you'd dump them if they weren't perfect.
Get a better perspective on what's valuable in people, and then live by that.
BTW, you might want to say that to, and about, your friend with the weight problem. Tell her (and your other friends when it comes up) that there's a lot that's great about her, and that you like her for lots of reasons. She knows she needs to lose weight, what she wants to hear from you is that you like her, whether or not she's heavy.
Oh cool you freakin suck you fat @ss. You need to puke and starve yourself and get freaking skinny like me! I'm 13 and weigh 60 d@mn pounds!
hey dont worry honey looks arent everything and thats the perfect size for a girl like you dont get depressed its ok just live life to the best and be happy that your alive its ok to feel that way sweetie but that doesnt always mean u sre what u think. HAVE A GREAT DAY!! and maybe you can go to a counselour if u dont want to feel insucure its ok to go there they can help im sorry if this doesnt help see ya
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